Step 1: The Billionaire’s Brain
& Jennifer Lopez’s Voice
“To get what you want, you have to deserve what you want. The world is not yet a crazy enough place to reward a whole bunch of
undeserving people.” – Charlie Munger
Most people in life are victims of their own making.
Sam chat said – There are three kinds of people in this world:
- People that watch things happen
- People that make things happen
- People that wonder what happens
Warren Buffet challenging question – 10% off someone you know for life in high school made…how would you choose?
On flip side, who is someone you would not choose? Make sure that person isn’t you
Using a set of intangibles that increase your “deserve it” factor
*See above on Charlie Munger quote on deserving
There are many intangibles:
Courage, Patience, Perseverance, wisdom, focus, intensity, etc..the most important is awareness.
Aristotle listed moral character:
We need to have massive awareness. Helen Keller is a prime example of this.
Froyd said “The pain of life is often to hard for us.” We substitutes and diversions from reality. To succeed you have to be focused on now.
Money represents reciprocal altruism in most cases. If you are doing much for the world..then the world isn’t going to give you much back.
*Research the life of Nelson Mandala
Goal is to just go to bed a little wiser.
Instead of focusing solely on what will make you successful instead ask yourself what will not make you successful? Invert. Not having awareness is a great thing of guaranteeing you to not be successful.
Pablo Picasso said “good artist copy great artist steal”. Meaning, awareness of who is a good artist..what can you learn from them and bring into your own success?
How much do I deserve? That is what I will probably get.
- Must be worth a damn
- Deserve It
- Awareness
Stephen Hawking says time is an illusion in the book “Theory of Everything” Time is measure three ways: 1. Cosmologically 2. Physiologically 3. Thermodynamically
Step 2: Blue-Footed Booby Birds, ESS & The 500 Yr Old Mind
Charles Darwin – On species: Not most intelligent or strongest but one that is best able to adapt that survive.
We have been taught since 500+ years we have been taught to think in black and white. Ex. The World is flat belief. This logic is the 500 year old mind.
As long as you are moving towards your goal it is not a failure it is an experiment
Thomas Edison said he made more mistakes than any would patent all of his “failed” experiments.
“Pivoting” is a familiar word in the startup world. When your first business model isn’t working (and this happens more often than not), the CEO and team pivot to plan B.
Charlie Munger says avoid extreme ideology.
Sam Walton – a man never afraid to fail.
Change is the basic law of nature
ESS- Evolutionary Stable Strategy
You need stability in your strategy. Respect others and their view and demand others to respect yours. Nothing about human beings, friendships, relationships and even your body remains static.
Adaption for no reason can also be another extreme. This is over adaption. When things change try to find a new equilibrium.
The best person to argue something is someone who has tried everything.
3. SAM WALTON’S NIGHT IN A BRAZILIAN JAIL, STEALING FROM MCDONALD’S & MICHAEL JORDAN’S HUMILITY
Michael Jordan what was his secret to his success? He was A. an excellent listener and then B. go and do it.
Dali Lama in book
Beyond Religion”
- Listening
- Understand and Comprehending
- Making it instinctually part of who you are
Sam Walton spent the majority of time in competitors stores. Do you project the attitude that you are humble and willing to go to extremes to learn and grow? Ex Sam Walton arrested in Brazil crawling on his knees to learn more…
Tracking down your mentors..no matter how you have to do so. All the greats had a mentor Einstein, Tesla, and etc
Things you should really ask yourself:
- How many books have you read?
- How good have you been to track down mentors to help you?
- Copying the competitors
- How much money have you spent on your own self-growth
Froyd said life is often too hard for us so we use three things:
- distractions
- intoxicants
- substitutive effects
Get humility in action the payoff is huge
What is the number one area I have not been humble in action??
Love, wealth, money?? What is it and the tangible thing you will do to change it. Write things down from you mentors..take notes!
One lesson Tai learned at an early age was to have several mentors. Many of his was people like Joel Salatin (The Omnivore’s Dilemma: A Natural History of Four Meals), Allan Nation..
4. PICASSO’S RISING TIDE & THE LAW OF 33%
Pablo Picasso – Good artist copy, great artist stea which means building on the shoulders of great people. Sir Issac Newton quoted it as “standing on the shoulders of giants. We learn in school the human mind is built to learn: visually, auditory, kinetics method (doing). In fact it is in the act of osmosis . Example mother and baby cow..no communication. The baby cow just learns by the mother cow rubbing off on it characteristics. To get what you want you have to be a continual learning machine.
Osmosis is the art of unconscious learning. It is where we stop studying materials, and start absorbing them.
In the book “The Selfish Gene” – Dawkin’s says “One way for our genes to solve the problem of making predictions in unpredictable environments (meaning anywhere) is to build in a capacity for learning. ex. speaking English but born in China
Jim Rohn say “Poor people should take rich people to dinner.”
70% of human communication is non-verbal
Lift the mental weight. Don’t go easy push yourself…and also you don’t need to overdo it
when you feel uncomfortable get excited..when you have the pain you are growing.
It is important to have not just one mentor but several. You want to spend 33% of your time with them. These should be your closest friends. Friendships are forged through adversity. We are born with the innate capacity to learn.
Not all good mentors are easy in their delivery of teaching…they might be rough around the edges. You need to have the heart and character to know that it will be a little tough..the average person can’t handle the grow..they will always shy away from situations that are uncomfortable or those that are far ahead of them will just hate or make fun of them.
Froyd says” Life is often intolerable for us”..we usually cover it up.
Pitfalls that come with mentors: is the not being able to handle the stress from feeling uncomfortable around a mentor, looking for perfection in them, you can’t expect that they will take the time out for you to train you. You need to be an absorbing machine and be persistent. Watch the way they walk and talk.
Make a list of mentors that are 20-30 years ahead of you. Ones that are not perfect but tolerable to you.
Great way to get a mentor is to simply reach out to them. Whether it be email or to their publicist. You make a blog or something and ask for an interview. Afterwards make sure to send them a gift.
Mentors – Don’t just ask will you be my mentor. Give first. 3/1 ratio
Practical steps:
- YOU MUST TRY (“Nothing impossible to him will who try” – Alexander the Great) Set a goal and execute. 18 months is a realistic time period to set.
- ADMIT DEFEAT- Willing to give up (Kenny Rogers “You have to know when to hold them and went to fold them” Sometimes mentors are just to busy..that is why you need to have 5 ideal mentors set up
- THINK BIG
5. MY POOR FRIENDS & CAMERON DIAZ’S PARROT
Speech is a direct reflection of what is in your brain.
Rich Friends Poor Friends
Great lesson to take away from Coach Carl was that he liked to ask lots of questions. Even if he was already an expertise on basketball. Successful people have the pattern of asking questions. They have the tendency to use quotes as opposed to their own opinion.
Another pattern is rich friends they know math.
We need to become self-educating machines
Our thought patterns are passed on through memes..just not by blood relations but through the media, books we read, and people we associate with. You must control these. A good goal is to have is to spread good ideas.
Like Jeff Bezos be a truth-seeker.
6. SCULPTURE VS. THE LOTTERY & THE ANTHROPIC MEDIA BIAS
Take the “sculpture” approach to life..each day you chip away at it instead of putting your efforts into just luck or shortcuts.
Ectomorph, Endomorph, mesomorph body sizes.
- Avoid popular stuff in media
- Cut back on magazines
- Go easy on things on the internet
Don’t let the media fool you..focus on directional paths
We must realize we are out of the “cage” and in the real world
Martin Seligman’s did a research on depression using dogs. Learned helplessness Dog that were trained to be helpless experience much lower levels of happiness. It is possible to rewire the brain towards helplessness.
Instead of having other people think for me..do the research. Google questions instead of being lazy.
Unreliability and laziness will kill you.
Staying with what is safe is a false economy. It is penny wise and dollar foolish.
You are never gonna get anywhere if you don’t take risks.
Slave mindset that comes from thinking there are things that our out of our control.
You need to innovate out of your problems this is the solution. The anticipation of helplessness is creativity. You need to move out of a place of helplessness to a place of creativity.
Reps and sets. If you do enough practice on something you can innovate and grow into whatever that is.
The present is such a great place to be taking risk. Stop staying in the cage. Taking risks is allowing yourself the chances of rewards.
You are not helpless that you cannot fix yourself. Innovate your way out of whatever circumstance you are in.
8. THE INTEGRATED GOOD LIFE & THE FOUR PILLARS OF EUDAIMONIA
Life cannot be reduced..there are components and elements but they are not separated but integrated. When you are unhappy with work and don’t look forward to going in believe it that you are experiencing low levels of Dopamine.
To simplify your life have everything within 2 miles of you. Traffic is a high stress factor.
When you life with too many ups you will have many downs…live like a 7 or an 8..
you need contrast
Look for areas in your life where you are separating but can integrate
Happiness does not come from taking this for yourself…its about contributing to something bigger than yourself.
Love relationships usually come through integration.
Make your spare time the same thing you want to do in your every day life time. You should ENJOY what you do for work.
Work & Health
Religion & Work
Friends & Health
Love & Health
9. WARREN BUFFETT’S BOOK-A-DAY DIET & MAKING WAR WITH A MULTITUDE OF COUNSELORS
Richard Dawkin’s book The Selfish Gene “Survival machines (us humans) that can simulate the future are one jump ahead of survival machines that can only learn on the basis of overt trial and error. Why is this? The trouble of over trial is that it takes time and energy..the trouble with overt error is that it is often fatal. Simulation is both safer and faster. The evolution of the capacity to simulate seems to have culminated in subjective conscientiousness.
Our brain it is what it is so we no longer have to learn from overt trial and error, which takes a lot of time and energy which we don’t have much of.
We are programmed to be feared based, but need to use it progressively towards a successful life not letting it paralyze you.
Work on reading a book a day. In order of the list: http://www.tailopez.com/books
- Set you time
- See yourself as a gold miner (grab a little something in the book and move on)
- Embrace the chaos
Those that can simulate the future can win.
Skip the books don’t spend all the time in it. Most books have 80% stories and 20% the main point of information.
10. STOIC VS. EPICUREAN ARNOLD’S 1,000 REPS, APACHE COLD SHOWERS, AND THE SPARTAN WHIPPING POST
“A nation is born stoic and dies epicurean” – Will Durant Stoic believe you must forgo present pleasure in the hopes to get something better. The investors of ancient history. Epicurean believe humans should live for now. Eat, drink, be merry for tomorrow you die.
Successful people sacrifice present luxury for a future benefit.
Newtons 3rd Law: For every action there is a reaction
Use it or lose it…you grow old through lack of use. You need to work on getting enough toughness to handle the grind of life.
Don’t be reliant on things to much. The phone becomes the master and you the slave. You need to be the master.
What will make you depressed is when you feel a slave to your environment.
Start off with a cold shower..next time you don’t want to do something just do it to mess with your brain. Burn off the fat in your brain.
If you don’t feel the burn that probably means you aren’t doing enough..lifting enough to force the muscles to regrow.
Learn to build slowly but try different things. Try turning off your cellphone for a few days.
Be excited for when you fail..it will make you stronger. You will find yourself in life with all your enforcements fallen and have the will to go forward. When you do the world will be surprised and give up its rewards for you.
When you pull through the toughness you feel better about yourself
11. THE WHISPERS OF 10,000 GENERATIONS, DUNBAR’S 150, & EVOLUTIONARY MISMATCH
The whispers in our brain is from thousands of years ago saying to eat as much sugar and high calorie meals as possible because we don’t know when we will eat next.
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We are not financially wired to save money. We come with the ideology to eat, drink, and be merry for tomorrow we die. You need to bi-pass this desire..it will take extraordinary effort.